Our happiness is determined by the satisfaction of our values. A simple but profound psychological fact is that our happiness is determined by the satisfaction of our true, inner values. By values I include all biologically based needs and all learned needs or values (including metavalues).

If all our biological and psychological values are being met at a level that surpasses some internal criterion, then we will feel perfectly happy.

Tom G. Stevens’s “Choose to be Happy” self-development plan. Includes a choose to be happy check list, excerpts from chapters of the book, a relationship questionnaire, workshop information and much more. You can get a free copy of this books here.

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How to make me happy? How to be happy? How to be happy of the day? I wanna to be happy person, because I like to meet people who have a happy face. How can we help ourselves and others - individuals, communities, and society - to become happier?  There are 6 tips to make yourself happy.

1. Give yourself permission to be human. When you accept emotions such as fear, sadness, or anxiety as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness.

2. Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. When this is not feasible, make sure you have happiness bossters, moments throughout the week that provide you with both pleasure and meaning.

3. Kepp in mind that happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status or the state of our bank account. Barring extreme circumstances, our level of well-being is determined by what we choose to focus on (the full or the empty part of the glass) and by our interpretation of external events. For example, do we view failure as catastrophic, or do we see it as a learning opportunity?

4. Simplify! We are, generally, too more activities into less and less time. Quantity influences quality, and we compromise on our happiness by trying to do too much.

5. Remember the mind-body connection. What we do-or don’t do - with our bodies influences our mind. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health.

6. Express gratitude, whenever possible. We too often take our lives for granted. Learn to appreciate and savor the wonderful things life, from people to food, from nature to a smile.

I hope this 6 tips will hep you to be happy, don’t worry!

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How to be happy? So you can be a happy people and showing your happy face. Which I think it is important to help you to build a good relationship and friendship.

Believe it or not - that drinking water will make you happier, you can still benefit from drinking lots of water because of the biochemical processes constantly happening in your body. In actual fact, water aids the many functions in our body system.

In other words, drinking lots of water is healthy habit that has many positive benefits. You also have better complexion because the water will flush out impurities in your system.

By explore the happy brain theory comparing traditional psychology with positive psychology. While traditional psychology has been mostly concentrating on the negative side, modern positive psychology aims to repair the worst things in a person’s life to build them into qualities.

“The science of psychology has been far more successful on the negative than on the positive side; it has revealed to us much about man’s shortcomings, his illness, his sins, but little about his potentialities, his virtues, his achievable aspirations, or his psychological height. It is as if psychology had voluntarily restricted itself to only half its rightful jurisdiction, and that the darker, meaner half.” - Abraham Maslow

“The aim of Positive Psychology is to catalyze a change in psychology from a proccupation only with repairing the worst things in life to also building the best qualities in life” - Martin Seligman.

Research has found that negative emotions outweigh the positive emotions in a person.

Negative emotions
Anger - 5584
Worries - 41, 416
Depression a 54,040

Positive emotions
Happiness - 415
Joy - 1,710
Life satisfaction - 2,582

The ratio is 21/1 which is not good news. This statistic shows that the stress level today is higher than in 1960. (research shows about 10 times higher) Conclusion? Positive emotions predict longevity.

Another study was carries out to prove the linkage between being positive and longevity. The study was made of a group of 85 years old. 90% of the group is positive and 34% negative. When they are 94 years old, 54% of the positive group is still alive while only 11% of the negative group lives on.

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