Are you real or not? This will be a common question asking by anybody either is a man or a woman. What do you think if someone treat you better, send you a gift and others. In online relationships need tending, you need to take time to grow your relationship over time. Here are some of the tips you can use it.

1.    Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2.    Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3.    Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.

4.    Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

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In order to build quality and lasting relationships, you need to trust others. Trust doesn’t necessarily happen right away.  In fact, it usually happens after you get to know people. With that said, you also need to go with your gut and give people a chance if you feel good about the situation. I am not suggesting that you put complete trust in someone after a first encounter.  Take the time to get to know people before you trust them.  At some point in any relationship, you need to put trust in others.

Below are 5 reasons why you should trust others, which will help accelerate your networking efforts:

1. People Will Like You – One of the most important aspects of relationship building is that people need to like you to want to be a part of your network.  As you get to know people and show your trust in them, your bond will grow stronger.

2. You Will Like Yourself Better – As you build stronger bonds with people, you will feel good about yourself.  Having a strong network of trustworthy people is a great feeling and important for networking success.

3. More Referrals – As you get to know people and they get to know you, more referrals will come your way.  In relationship building, receiving (and giving out) referrals is very important for business and personal success. Why do you think that BNI was created?

4. Natural Human Reaction – Most of us naturally (or at least me) trust other people when initially meeting and getting to know them.   As long as nothing bad happens, we generally give people the benefit of the doubt. Why fight against the natural instinct?

5. Opportunities Present Themselves – If you are guarded and don’t trust people, then you will be losing out on potential opportunities. With most situations and people, keep an open mind because you never know what it could lead to.

What are some other reasons why you should trust people?

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If you are still struggling to understand male-female relationships, this book (Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus - John Gray) is an ultimate guide to helped men and women to understand each other better.

I had personally read the book, and I think I have some review to share with you here:

Title: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus - John Gray
Author: John Gray
Pages: 286

This book worth the price as it only selling at RM36.90 in any bookstore throughout the nation, invaluable resource for improving relationship. If you are still trying hard to understand your partner, after reading, you may have a clear understanding as why sometimes you felt resentful or neglected, because there’s a huge difference between men and women. It taught you how to control your anger, avoiding arguments, how to overcome miscommunication, give more love to your partner, differing emotional needs, respectful communication, asking for/receiving support and much more to be listed.

Some important points in the book:
Men believe in the adage that “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”
Women, on the other hand, might say that “if it ain’t broke, upgrade it.”
Consequently, when a woman offers advice or criticism to a man, the man could misunderstand that she considers him inadequate.

Men like to be considered competent, whereas women like to be cherished.
This difference could result in an misunderstanding.
When a woman asks questions such as “Do you have enough cash?” or “Did you remember your umbrella?” she is treating others as she would like to be treated, but not as a man might like to be treated.

When men share their problems, they want solutions.
When women share their problems, they want empathy.
This difference results in situations in which a woman shares her problems, the man offers solutions, and the woman becomes angry because the man “is just not listening!”
The difference could also result in a man feeling blamed for a problem whereas in fact he is not.

A man often wants solitude when he is thinking about a problem.
A woman should be careful not to bother a man with questions at such a time.

A woman could have mood swings for no discernible reason.
A man should respect those mood swings and not take them personally.

When a man wants help, he asks. When a woman wants help, she doesn’t.
A woman could make a mistake by offering help when a man doesn’t ask.
On the other hand, a man could make a mistake by not sensing when a woman wants help.

Women count all gifts and favors equally, regardless of size or amount. Many small gifts and favors are better than one large, expensive gift or favor.

If a woman asks a man for a favor and the man hesitates, she should allow a few seconds for the hesitation rather than hastily interpreting that hesitation as a refusal.

This book is great, however with 286 pages, the book has more to offer that I’m unable to lists them all here. Grab this book and start to read and blossom the love you have rather than struggling in your relationship if you are.

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I come across so many social networking sites. Everyone try to create a very beautiful portfolio in their personal sites. Some of the common people do are simply adding someone as their friends who have the same interest. This could be very easy when come to manage your friend in the internet.

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We tend to think of finding the right relationship as being a hunt for another person, and it is. But it depends first of all on being ready yourself. The best way to do this is to develop your emotional intelligence skills. It’s all about relationships and emotions, after all.

You could meet the most “right” person in the world, and still not be able to make it work. In fact in some cases, if you’re dragging around the past, you wouldn’t know a good partner for you if they appeared in shining light.

So what can you do?

* 1.Know yourself completely and what you want.
* 2.Increase your emotional intelligence competencies.
* 3.Be sure the past is past.
* 4.Use your emotional intelligence in the early stages of the relationship (and of course thereafter!)

Knowing yourself

Clients ask me this, and I hear people asking other people when they are about to meet a new man of woman, “But I don’t know how to act.”. When you’re meeting someone new, the answer is to just be yourself, but of course this is easier than it sounds! We’re nervous and want to make a good impression, so two parts of emotional intelligence are important: self-awareness, and being able to manage our emotions.

When you have developed your emotional intelligence skills, you know who you are, and what you want in all areas of your life, and you know what you are looking for in a partner. You also are better able to manage your emotions (and those of others). In fact one of the competencies is called “Intentionality.” This means saying what you mean, and meaning what you say, and then doing all you can to make it happen.
Using your EQ

Getting to know someone else is always full of surprises, and the older you get, the more “history” you will have to relate to each other. Bear in mind that it is always easiest for us to handle our own “problems” emotionally, than those of others. You may have endured a bankruptcy or the death of a spouse as part of your life, and to someone else this might sound insurmountable. They may wonder what shape you’re in, emotionally, and what this has “done” to you. For instance, they may know someone who hasn’t coped well with one of these situations, and may be thinking this would apply to you as well.

My mother used to say, “If all our problems were hung on a line (clothes line), you would take yours, and I would take mine.” So the emotionally intelligent thing is to introduce what we’ll call “new material” slowly. Of course everyone puts their best foot forward in the early stages of a relationship, and that’s appropriate. But as you increase the intimacy and start getting to know one another more deeply, you will be talking about the battle scars, the things that make you who you are. We all have them!

Remember that yours may sound much “bigger” to the other person than they actually are. Don’t rush into this part of the relationship, telling of all those times you missed the mark, or had things happen to you that altered the course of your life. Begin by showing your wonderful, positive strengths and the qualities that have allowed you to be resilient through the rough seas of life.

Think about someone showing you a house for sale. They wouldn’t start with the repaired foundation and the 15 year old HVAC system. They would begin with the spectacular view, the stunning master suite with the oversized Jacuzzi, the top-of-the-line appliances in the kitchen, and the exceptional landscaping on the acre lot. There will be plenty of time to get to the foundation (along with the warranty papers) and the HVAC system’s age (which can easily be replaced, and you’ve reduced the price of the house to accommodate). But why start with those things? It just isn’t emotionally intelligent.

If you’d like to get to know yourself better, and increase your EQ skills, the first thing to do is take an EQ assessment, Then work with an emotional intelligence coach. EQ is all about identifying your emotions, understanding them, managing them, and regulating them, and what greater gift could you give this potential life partner you are looking for?And in the meantime, improving your EQ will benefit you in all areas of your life, and clear the air for new experiences in your life

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For any strong healthy relationship with partners & lovers, there are some qualities which make the relationship strong. A relationship forms as a bond of trust between eachother and supports each other. There are some skills which help you to create a strong bonding with trust in relationships.

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